Small Matter, Big Concern

Phrase of the week: Small matter. There is this saying, "Don't make a mountain out of a molehill." How can the human race refuse to agree with this statement? It is very true indeed that when another party does turn a tiny matter into a big nuisance, one cannot help but to feel extreme annoyance and frustration. Especially when the other party is a Negative Energy Feeder- one who dwells on the negative side of situations and is the happiest when he or she managed to spread all the negative aura to others and cover the entire place with black clouds. One that feeds on negativity and radiates negativity. Alright Negative Energy Feeders aside, why does one overreact and assume that something is a big deal when in the eyes of many it could merely be called a problem? An OCD person perhaps. Maybe that person is a psycho and a control freak. Or maybe it really is something huge to the other person. That "small matter" means more than you think to the other person.

Let me tell you something. Never ever tell someone, "It is a small matter" when you have never walked in the person's shoes. Never. You never know how much burden that is being carried in one's heart. You don't how much pain one has to bear. You don't know how much courage and strength it takes to draw that smile across the face in order to fool the world. Every heart has it's personal struggle. A struggle no one understands apart from the very soul itself and it's Creator. Tell that weary soul, "Take it easy. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Let it go. All is fine" but it is never that simple. Sure, it is pretty simple to utter all these words. It is easy to brush aside another person's worries and to dismiss someone's sigh as an exaggeration. Before uttering all those words. Think. Was all that not done by the other person? You think the other person is not trying to heal the sorrows and move on? It is being done every moment. In their innermost being, they wished it was as simple as what others have said. If only every piece of hurtful memories, all the doldrums could be wiped away with a sentence, "Take it easy". Perhaps, in moment like these, a reassuring hug speaks louder than comments that are not needed. Another person's small matter may be small to you but a big concern to them. Never disregard another person's problem as miniature no matter how you feel towards their problems or how you perceived it to be. Because a struggle is always a struggle. If you cannot understand one's struggle, then don't be a struggle to that person.

Not Just a Pretty Face

Stereotyping happens all the time. We all stereotyped other people and I honestly admit that I am very fond of stereotyping and I am very good at it. I am not proud of it. I love to use the label "typical". Every individual is beautiful in their very own ways. Each of us is created with an inner beauty; a special inner self. We are all uniquely beautiful. They say all that matters is the inside of a person. If this true, why does very magazine cover and every advertisement features only thin, pretty ladies. Advertising agencies use the vanity approach to appeal to customers: Use this product and you will make heads turn as you sashay along the paved walkway. Why is this approach so effective? Simply because most individual feels insecure. They feel the need to turn heads but they do not believe that their innate talents and beauty will help them do so. Some even grew up believing that they are not beautiful no matter what because of the treatment they received from others. Their self- confidence were marred by those who treat them a little less simply because their perpetrators believe they don't look attractive enough. It is not uncommon to have a thin, pretty lady receive more attention than a fat, unattractive woman. Looks seem to play an important role. The outer finish seem to be more vital than the inner substance. The pretty princess always, always get better treatment than her opposite peer. Her physical beauty seems to override every other more important aspects such as the heart and the soul. She never had to lift a finger to do most thing because her looks captivate many hearts. While her unattractive friend had to struggle to get people to believe in her inner beauty and capabilities. As much as everyone seem to emphasize on the inner beauty, many still can't help but to treat a pretty girl better than wasting their time on an unattractive girl. I understand that people are generally attracted to pretty objects and good looking human beings. It is not wrong to get attracted. "Typical"s are those who only see the typical traits in another and are generally attracted to these traits, which in this case is typical beauty: Pretty face, petite, fair, slim and soft- spoken. Sometimes, these "typical"s focuses on the typical traits so much that they forget to look beyond all that. They tend to overlook those who do not have all the typical traits. They forget that they are due the same respect as the other typical beauties. Why look at an unattractive girl and assume that she has nothing to offer, nothing worth your time and energy? At the end of the day I truly believe that the heart and soul is all that matters because it is who you are. If one possessed the greatest physical beauty in the world but is rotten at heart, then, she would is not beautiful at all. However, if she is ugly physically but has a good heart, she is a beautiful gem. Every individual deserve the same amount of respect and worth. Every book has a wonderful story to tell. It's cover may not be appealing but it has it's own treasure of unique stories. To all "typical"s out there, please remember: It is not just about the pretty face. Search for that X-factor. That uniqueness will be worthwhile.