Small Matter, Big Concern

Phrase of the week: Small matter. There is this saying, "Don't make a mountain out of a molehill." How can the human race refuse to agree with this statement? It is very true indeed that when another party does turn a tiny matter into a big nuisance, one cannot help but to feel extreme annoyance and frustration. Especially when the other party is a Negative Energy Feeder- one who dwells on the negative side of situations and is the happiest when he or she managed to spread all the negative aura to others and cover the entire place with black clouds. One that feeds on negativity and radiates negativity. Alright Negative Energy Feeders aside, why does one overreact and assume that something is a big deal when in the eyes of many it could merely be called a problem? An OCD person perhaps. Maybe that person is a psycho and a control freak. Or maybe it really is something huge to the other person. That "small matter" means more than you think to the other person.

Let me tell you something. Never ever tell someone, "It is a small matter" when you have never walked in the person's shoes. Never. You never know how much burden that is being carried in one's heart. You don't how much pain one has to bear. You don't know how much courage and strength it takes to draw that smile across the face in order to fool the world. Every heart has it's personal struggle. A struggle no one understands apart from the very soul itself and it's Creator. Tell that weary soul, "Take it easy. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Let it go. All is fine" but it is never that simple. Sure, it is pretty simple to utter all these words. It is easy to brush aside another person's worries and to dismiss someone's sigh as an exaggeration. Before uttering all those words. Think. Was all that not done by the other person? You think the other person is not trying to heal the sorrows and move on? It is being done every moment. In their innermost being, they wished it was as simple as what others have said. If only every piece of hurtful memories, all the doldrums could be wiped away with a sentence, "Take it easy". Perhaps, in moment like these, a reassuring hug speaks louder than comments that are not needed. Another person's small matter may be small to you but a big concern to them. Never disregard another person's problem as miniature no matter how you feel towards their problems or how you perceived it to be. Because a struggle is always a struggle. If you cannot understand one's struggle, then don't be a struggle to that person.