Ready For Love?

It has been a long time since I last updated my blog. That explains my current lack of creativity and worsening syntactical skills, I believe. When I first started my blog, it was never meant to be religious or "preachy/ preaching" or whatever one may label it. It was simply a space to pour out my thoughts and allow me some free emotional therapy. Tonight, I decided to post this partly because I need to practice my writing skills and partly to share my strong view on a topic I have grown accustomed to, while striving to practice: Chastity.

I spent almost my whole day (besides helping out in the kitchen and the afternoon siesta!) accompanying my grandmother in front of the television. I do not really watch television any more these days apart from watching Chelsea playing live on screen. We were browsing through the channels and I found this new series on Diva called Ready for Love. The title sounds intriguing so I told my grandma to skip her usual Chinese drama to watch this. Barely thirty minutes into the series, I squirmed in my seat feeling utterly uneasy and uncomfortable. No, I was not put off by the sex scenes or the violent gore. In fact, I saw none of that.

The reality show was about three rich, good-looking and successful bachelors who are looking for a serious relationship- a woman they can and want to marry, a wife. Well, that is something interesting, taking into account how the selfish world today portrays marriage as an unnecessary troublesome commitment. The three bachelors would have to choose one girl at the end of the day and these beautiful, smart and equally successful young girls are competing furiously against each other to gain and sustain the attention of the bachelors. Three 'matchmakers' provide the girls with so-called wise and helpful advices on how to do so.

One beautiful girl was deemed perfect because she has much self-control and she choose to save it before marriage (not just sex but anything that could lead to sex). In other words, she wants to be chaste. A disappointing advice she got from her matchmaker is that she needs to loosen up; to let herself free and be bold because she was controlling and restraining herself too much. She needs to do something bold in order to take the relationship one step further. Prove that you want him, you want to be here. She did. By giving her first kiss to him, promising him that her kiss is perfect. He was, of course, taken aback, delighted and could not wait for the next kiss. She told herself that the matchmaker would be proud of her. Both the bachelor and the girl barely knew each other. They went on dates a couple of times, each lasting less than a few hours. I bet she does not even know where he graduated from. Not that it matters but the point is they are mere acquaintance!  After this scene, I switched to another channel. I just cannot bear to watch it any longer. 

If I need to sustain a man's attention by giving in to lust then he is definitely not worth it. If I want to marry a man, I want a husband who fights for me. Not the other way round. If I were to attract a man, I would attract him with my heart, because that would keep him. If I were to give something of myself away (my dreams, my hopes, my fears, my body), that someone has to earn it and earn it so well so as to be called my husband. At one point, the bachelor keeps reiterating, "You appear to be so perfect, I just need to know one of your flaws to connect with you". She answered, "I am not perfect".  He pushes her to drop her guard. The one thing he fails to see is he has to earn it. She is definitely NOT perfect but to uncover your faults to someone, you need to trust that someone. To be more than just acquaintance. It takes time. 

I am shaken and sickened by the whole show. The matchmakers were there to spice things up, fuel the scandal; making these uniquely gorgeous women fight among themselves and do whatever it takes to win the heart of the bachelors. The whole show serves as a perfect weapon of destroying their self-worth. They start comparing themselves with another, plotting cunning ploys to gain his attention, cultivating envy towards the other contestants and fighting to win the ultimate 'prize'. Love becomes a game. Human beings become objects that can be won and bought in a sense. Every soul will end up feeling used and empty, physically and emotionally. Human value is degraded so low as to be an equal of a 'thing'- a piece on a chessboard. What happened to true love? What happened to true dating and courtship?

This is warp. I am better off watching Princess Sophia cartoon. Fantasy but still better than this.